Here is the weekly post for the week! Today is talking about how to approach a girl or what to do at a party.

Several clusters of attractive, single, Singaporean women awaited courageous men, or better yet, sociable men, to introduce themselves. In the midst of this scene, a cute girl pointed out "THE ROW".

While the rare man or two or three was richly rewarded by his newly made female friends for his social bravery, there was still the infamous "ROW" of single men lined up along the bar and along the couches against the wall, silent, unsmiling, and scanning the room for "targets", which they would be too nervous to approach in the end.

This was a scene from one of the ubiquitous singles' events springing up all over the city leading up to Valentine's Day a few days ago. What to do if you ever find yourself an unwilling member of the infamous ROW? Read below:

If u are that line of men standing against the wall of the club, staring ominously ahead or scanning the room nervously, not talking much to their friends and just being silent, unsmiling, trying to look cool and tough, and only interested in talking to hot girl, then u will most likely to be going home alone.

If u find yourself in THE ROW, "trying to be cool", and actually too afraid to talk to that cute girl in front of you, then immediately walk away. Take a breather for a few minutes. Step outside for a few minutes of fresh air. Then when u re-enter the venue, be the social guy!

Talk to the first friendly person u see, whether it's the bouncer, a random guy or an old women. Your opener can be as simple and effective as, "Hey, having a good time tonight?" If u get a friendly response, follow this up by introducing yourself: "My name is ____. What's yours?" Work the room. Talk to every friendly person u see, guy or girl. You don't have to talk to the person for long. Even just a minute will do to make a good impression.

Eventually you will make your way to that cute girl u didn't have the courage to approach earlier. But now u built up for yourself some social momentum. Talk to her just like you've been talking to everybody else up to then. Remember, it's perfectly normal and even highly valuable skill to start conversations with total strangers. After you make emotional and social connections, see if the girl meets your standards.

After this, it should seem natural for both of you to want to continue your conversation at another time. It could be as simple as "let's trade contact info, do you have your phone with you?" And then exchange numbers, email or name cards.

Adapted from The New Paper, Sunday, 15 Feb 2009